It’s been almost a year and a half since I became single. Stepping into this world was scary and very unpredictable. I had no idea what to expect, what obstacles I would face or challenges that would come my way! I really didn’t think too much about myself and all of my concerns were about my son. Over the last few weeks, I have begun to shift my focus on myself. I am realizing how much time I have spent trying to “pick up the pieces” of situations in my relationships that have been full of lies, deceit and unappreciation. I have focused so much on rebuilding, reshaping and repairing everyone else that somewhere along the way I gave up on ME. I wasn’t worthy. I didn’t deserve a good guy. I began to settle.
What happened to my self worth? I have always been a confident and very independent woman. I came from a home in which I watched my parents love and respect one another. I was always the girl who told friends who were with guys who treated them unkind to, “leave” and that, “they could do so much better.” Why, then, was I compromising? Why was I always the one to make all the sacrifices? It’s like I have stumbled out of a fog and now I can see everything clearly! I understand that I am wounded. I understand that my heart has been repeatedly crushed. I understand that I am a work in progress. I DO NOT understand how I am 40 and DATING.
Yes, I am now in the dating world. I think since entering into this new and uncharted territory I have been forced to deal with my issues with men. This time around it’s not just about getting into a relationship for me, but it’s also about my son. I can’t afford to get into another unhealthy relationship that will lead to nowhere, now that my son is part of the equation. It is imperative that I find a GOOD man! This new truth catapulted my desire to look at myself and to try and unmask the hurt and uncover the pain. It’s something that I know will take time, but at least I am open to the process and aware of my shortcomings.
With all of that said, God HELP the men that come into my life from here on out! Not only do I have no idea “how to date”, but I am pretty sure it will be like barreling through a brick wall to gain any amount of trust with me. If you’re a woman in my shoes, you understand. I’m much like Elsa in that my heart is FROZEN and I’m singing very loudly, “Let it Go, Let it Go!”
Wow! Did we just have a summer break? That went by so insanely fast! It seems like yesterday that I was packing for vacation and looking forward to time off with my son. That was yesterday, right?
Teacups and Trucks had a very busy summer too! Our summer themed day camp was a huge success and it definitely kept us on our toes. No time for days at the beach or pool when you have 25 kids waiting for you each day. I have been an active participant in day camps my entire life. From a camper to a counselor to a director and then on to overseeing the staff that lead the camps, I’ve always had my hand in the pot, so to speak. Camp is fun for me! It is a challenge to come up with new and exciting activities to keep the children engaged and eager to attend each day. There is nothing worse than sending your child somewhere for the entire summer that is boring and monotonous. Summer break is supposed to be fun and full of excitement and our camps are exactly that!
We have also been very busy coming up with new, customizable party packages to offer to our customers. These new packages allow you to build your own party and pay for the things that YOU need. For instance, if you are the kind of person who enjoys pinterest projects and decorating, but you hate entertaining children, there is a package that allows you to have us come and entertain the children only. On the flip side, if you absolutely hate decorating, but enjoy coming up with fun games and activities for the children to do at the birthday party, we can do that too! We are very excited about this new format and hope that we will still be able to serve our diverse market.
And as if we don’t have our hands full enough with all these new changes, we also introduced our new wedding service for children called, WE DO! We had the pleasure of working 2 weddings over the summer and even more excited at the GREAT reviews we received. Here is one that really knocked our socks off:
“I cannot count the number of overwhelmingly positive compliments that my guests gave me at my wedding and the weeks following regarding the services of Teacups & Trucks. The level of professionalism and creativity that was provided was above and beyond. The decorations and supplies beautifully complemented my wedding décor and the children did not want to leave the wedding at the end as they were enjoying the crafts, games, facepainting and friendly staff who became their new friends. This wedding nanny service provided a wonderful service to our adult friends so they could enjoy socializing at the wedding at the same time being able to peek in on their children at any time and see how much fun they were having. I cannot convey how special it was to have so many beautiful children smiling included in our wedding photos. My husband and I will cherish the framed collage that was made for us by the 22 children at our wedding and can honestly say that it was the best vendor hire that we made for our special day.”
Please watch this video to learn what all the hype is about in the Charleston wedding market!
We are really looking forward to this new school year! I just hope it doesn’t go by as quickly as the summer did. I love camp, but I also love having the 9 month break in between!
Born in 1973, I was a child growing up in the 80′s video game era! I remember when ATARI first came out with games such as Pac-Man and Combat and then eventually Nintendo with Super Mario Brothers. I loved playing video games! My sister and I became obsessed with advancing to the next level and our quest to rescue the Queen was borderline insanity! That crazy dragon was impossible to pass! I hated him so!
Now, don’t get me wrong, we definitely didn’t sit in the house all day playing video games. We loved to play outside! Most days my mom would make us go outside and we weren’t allowed back in the house until she said so. Could you imagine that in today’s world? We have become so dependent on our digital devices for everything that we have lost touch with everyday pass times. Whatever happened to neighborhood games of hide and go seek, long car rides playing alphabet or spot that license plate? I’ll tell you what happened, video games, Ipods, Iphones, Ipads and the list goes on and on!
I think it is very important for parents to monitor the amount of time that children spend on these devices. Stop relying on these to keep your children entertained! Play with your children and allow them to have “down time” where they have to use their imagination to find things to do. Less time in front of a video game or phone is more time that your children will interact with you asking questions, talking about their dreams, laughing. These are all moments that you can never get back! It may mean that your children are a little less quiet, more rowdy and on your last nerve, but it’s so vital to their connection to family.
This year, my son purchased with his birthday money, a PlayStation 4. It wasn’t something I necessarily wanted him to have, but I also understand that he is a normal child and who doesn’t love video games at his age? Before we even opened the box, we discussed the rules and time limits for daily use and he had to agree to them or else lose his time all together. His initial reaction to this was, “But so and so gets to play their video games as much as they want to.” My answer, “I am very happy to return this system and you not have any video games at all.” Yeah, that was all it took and he smiled and said, “No, that’s ok.”
Unplug from the digital world and go outside and play! Or, at the very least, create a balance between the two. Paint pictures, ride bikes, fly a kite, walk on the beach, build a fort, play in a sprinkler, open a lemonade stand, go on a nature hunt and ENJOY your limited time with your children! They’ll thank you for it one day!
Imagine having 3 kids. After you’ve wrapped your head around the idea that you have 3 energetic, wild, and hyperactive kids, imagine that you have been invited to a wedding. Immediately your mind starts to go a million place.s What areyou going to wear, what gift are you going to buy the bride and groom, which store are you going to buy your shoes from? Suddenly, you remember…….the kids.
If buying brand new outfits for your 3 little darlings, packing the car, and getting to the wedding ON TIME wasn’t enough, now you have to make sure they remain calm. Telling them to “sit down” every five minutes, or “shushing” them while the bride and groom say their vows.
“Would it have been easier to leave them at home?…” you think to yourself. But going through the hassle of finding a babysitter my have been just as hard.
Teacups and Trucks is happy to announce a brand new service, “WE DO” Child Friendly Weddings! With this new service, children are finally able to be apart of the celebration!
Watch our video to get a behind-the-scenes look at this exciting new service!
With our new service, we can provide a designated area that is designed according to theme and colors, while also providing hostesses to entertain with games, crafts, activities and more!
•A unique experience for both children and parents
•Matching theme and colors
•Chairs, Tables, Decor, Supplies
•Wedding Favors and take-home pictures
•Entertainment, Activities, Crafts, Games
•Hostesses: CPR Certified, 3 + years experience
•Peace of Mind for the Bride
•Supervision of children and an Uninterrupted event
•Budget friendly solution for friends, family, and guests
For more information:
Visit our “We Do” Page
As a mother and children’s party planner, I am ultra sensitive to parents not submitting their RSVP for parties. It is the #1 pet peeve given by parents on planning their child’s party, so why oh why do we still have so many not doing it?
As a parent, we already know the nightmare it causes on our end when we have no idea who will be coming to our child’s party. Not only do we not know how much food to buy or favors to purchase, but if your party is being hosted outside of your home or by a party planner, you are being charged for the headcount you give them BEFORE THE PARTY!! Think about it, you can’t show up to Chuck E Cheese with 30 people and expect them to have an area ready and waiting on you! You can’t do that with a party planner either. We plan our parties weeks in advance! We have to purchase supplies that are bought online that require several days to ship, we make most of our decorations, props and costumes, we have to prepare for staff and many other things that require more than a day’s notice! Nothing is more irritating than to be told the party will have a maximum of 12 and then a few days before the party, the number magically goes up to 25!!! Really!! Please help parents out by submitting your RSVP on time (at least a week prior) and if you don’t RSVP, here are 3 simple rules to follow:
RSVP no, no #1- If you don’t RSVP to the party, don’t show up! If you remember that you didn’t RSVP the night before the party and you planned on going, politely contact the host and explain your forgetfulness and ask if it would be okay to come. 9 times out of 10 it will be perfectly fine, but it’s always nice to give a heads up. Do you really want to be the one that the host is indiscreetly referencing, “They are the ones that didn’t RSVP?”
RSVP no, no #2- Taking a party favor! If you didn’t RSVP, chances are a favor wasn’t made for your child. You may want to refrain from taking one until you know enough were prepared. It isn’t fair for your child to get one and a child who did RSVP, doesn’t. If there happens to be a shortage of favors, this usually will result in a meltdown of your child because they didn’t get one. Again, another reason to please RSVP!!!
Last, but not least, on the RSVP no, no list- Don’t bring siblings if they weren’t invited! I know this is hard when you have more than 1 child and nobody to watch the others, but if you can’t arrange it, don’t come. This mostly pertains to younger children who don’t understand that they are not part of the party. It only makes things awkward for the host who will inevitably let them participate, but when children who WERE invited show up and don’t have a place to sit, they feel guilty for not being able to accommodate everyone! It happens ALL THE TIME!!
Every morning while taking my son to school I have been faithfully listening to a radio station that has been airing a story about a woman who is contemplating calling off her engagement because she “thinks” she may want to pursue a relationship with, what she calls, her “soul mate”. Over the last few weeks as I’ve heard more and more about this story I can’t help but to get really irritated!
I can’t tell you how many times I have heard people think like this woman. I’ve heard excuse after excuse from husbands and wives. “We just drifted apart”, “We don’t have anything in common anymore”, “I found someone else who makes me happy”. The latter one was even used by my first husband when explaining why he was leaving me. What is it with people? I mean, love really isn’t that complicated. We love our children, right? We love our pets? Heck, we even love sports teams! I’m pretty sure we don’t just wake up one day and decide we don’t love our children anymore. We don’t abandon our team just because they didn’t win in the playoffs. So why then do we fall out of love with our spouse? Didn’t we, when taking vows, or even if not married, promise to love and cherish? Didn’t we choose this one person to love unconditionally despite flaws, weird habits and different interests? When we fall in love, we KNOW (or at least we should) the person with whom we are falling for. If there are things you don’t like when you initially start dating, STOP DATING! Either that or don’t complain once you’ve been in a relationship for 5 years and then say, “You don’t like the same things that I do.” What a crock of crap!! I don’t like the same things you do either, but I still love you. My son makes me want to pull my hair out frequently, but I promise there isn’t anyone or anything that will come between us! What is it with people? Love is love, plain and simple. Either you love someone with your whole heart or you don’t really love them to begin with. I get so sick and tired of people taking love for granted. It is sad.
Don’t get me wrong, I know there are tons of women and men out there who try their best to stay in their marriage or relationship, but simply can’t because there is no reciprocation on the other end. Believe me, I’ve been there! I, too, know how it feels to wonder how someone can just fall out of love. It’s baffling. Love is not easy. Not in the slightest bit and definitely not with another adult who you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with. Love is hard work. It takes constant attention and reflection. It takes patience and understanding. It takes forgiveness and LOVE. How strange! The very thing you are trying to preserve is what it takes to make it thrive!!
I’ve often been told that the way I think is very unconventional. I’ve even been told, “I feel sorry for you” or “I wish I could think like you do about love”. Well, I promise you don’t need to feel sorry for me and you definitely don’t need to worry about me “giving up” on true love. I believe in it! The problem lies with finding someone else who believes in it too! My one constant reminder and belief in love is my parents. They are so in love with one another that sometimes it almost doesn’t seem real. I’ve grown up with my dad telling me over and over how a man should treat a woman when he is truly in love. I promise I always listened and aspired to have a man like him one day. I guess that’s why I take it so hard when I have managed to come this far in life and still don’t have it.
To those of you out there who are like this woman on the radio, just leave already. You obviously don’t love your fiancé or you wouldn’t even entertain the idea of someone else. If you are in a marriage that is lifeless or full of despair, don’t give up. Remember what attracted you to one another in the first place. Remember the good times. Focus on that and do whatever it takes to get it back. It’s there, I promise! For those of you who have tried your best and given it your all and it still isn’t working, it’s okay. You can and WILL make it through and find love again one day. What’s love got to do with it, you ask? EVERYTHING!!!!
When deciding to start a blog for my business, I was sure that I wanted to use it not only to grow my business, but also to inspire, uplift and motivate others. In doing this, I knew that sharing my personal stories and life journey would be a crucial part of this mission.
Over the weekend, I attended a show that Teacups and Trucks had the pleasure to sponsor, “Listen to Your Mother”, that consisted of a Charleston cast all telling their personal stories about motherhood. It was so moving to me to listen to them and it inspired me to reflect upon my own journey as a mother.
Last year(almost exactly 1 year to be exact), I decided to leave my son’s father after an 11 year relationship. I put in a long and VERY hard fight to save my family, but in the end, I was powerless against unwavering disrespect. It was, without a doubt, the HARDEST decision I have ever made in my life. Not only was I leaving a man that I thought I would be with for the rest of my life and that I loved dearly, but I was taking our son away from his father and the only home he has ever known.
I still remember the day I sat my son down to tell him the news. I didn’t have it planned and I most definitely didn’t think it would be done without his dad present. But, I truly believe that my son knew something was going on and that God meant for him to find out from me that day, alone. I don’t remember what exactly I said, but immediately tears started streaming from my son’s face as he tried desperately to refrain from crying. I cuddled him in my arms and assured him it was okay and we spent the next hour on the couch crying together, uncontrollably. It was the saddest moment in my life and I will never forget that day, ever. It actually reminded me of another very tragic moment in my life when my dad cuddled me in his arms when I discovered my first husband was leaving me for another woman. I knew how my son felt. Helpless. Afraid. Heartbroken. I instantly knew how my dad felt that day too, unable to relieve my pain. As I laid there holding my son, everything in me wanted to grab him, tell him it was okay and that we were going home. I wanted to stop his pain.
Days, weeks and now months have gone by since that life changing day and I must say that not a day goes by that I don’t think about how my son is feeling. How is he doing? Is he keeping things inside? Does he understand? My entire life I have envisioned being a mother and a wife and having a wonderful, stable life like the one I had as a child. I desperately longed for it and definitely wanted that for my own children. Being a mother is such a privilege and I certainly want to do the very best job I can to make sure my son has the very best life he can. I always say that we get one shot at raising our children and instilling in them good values, beliefs, and morals. I just don’t want to fail my son. I don’t want to ever look back and think I could have done something differently.
My son and I have become very close in the year that we have been living alone. We try every chance we get to talk about our feelings and we also rely a lot on prayer. My son has, undoubtedly, strengthened his relationship with God through this whole process and that makes me very happy. He may not have both parents in his home, but he does have two parents that love and adore him and that is something to be thankful for. He is just the best thing that has ever happened to me and I hope he knows that his mommy will do anything to keep him happy.
Happy Mother’s Day! Hug your babies tight, do the best you can and don’t be afraid to make mistakes along the way! After all, it’s gonna happen anyway.
A day that comes only once a year to recognize one of the most important people in every family’s life. To the person that has been there when you needed them the most. To the first person you call when you have good, and not so good news. To the person that loves you unconditionally no matter how many times you screw up, or succeed.
Having only one day to express to this person how you have truly appreciated and loved them for 365 days is something not even words can fully describe. This year, make your mom feel as special as she is. Show her you care with a gift that she will cherish for a lifetime.
We have compiled a list of our Top 7 Favorite Pinterest Pins for Mother’s Day Gift Ideas. Each idea incorporates either pictures or a personal touch which can be created as simple or elaborate as your heart desires.
There is no better gift than one that comes from the heart.
This past weekend I was reminded of just how important it is to be spontaneous…
It is rare that I am ever off on a weekend. I knew this was going to be my life when I decided to open my business almost 5 years ago. I do have the luxury of scheduling my events and blocking off days on the weekends for just me, but for some reason, I NEVER do! Last Saturday we had a last minute cancellation of our second party for the day and I was bound and determined to do something relaxing and fun for a change.
Faith and I had just finished wrapping up a Spy party that morning and I informed her that I was heading to Folly Beach soon after (it was literally a mile from our party site). I told her that I needed her to come with me and hang out for the day. She was not as eager as I was and was complaining that she didn’t have her bathing suit, hadn’t shaved her legs, blah, blah, blah… Lol! After convincing her that it didn’t matter and that we never get days like this, she happily jumped on the Folly Beach bandwagon. We jumped in her car together and immediately put the windows down and cranked up the tunes! We were off to the beach!
There is just something about wind, sun, music and a good friend that just puts you in a good frame of mind. Once we arrived at the beach we parked the car and headed to Rita’s for a quick bite to eat. Over lunch we talked about life, people passing on the street and laughed about how we didn’t even have beach chairs or towels to go sit on the beach. We were truly “winging” it! That’s when Faith mentioned that we should do something crazy and rent bicycles and cruise the beach. I was all for it! We walked 2 blocks up the street to grab our bicycles, but it was closed. We were bummed! But, we immediately spotted a shop that rented golf carts and we headed over. $15 an hour. We gave him $20 and promised to be back within at least 2. We drove off the lot and immediately looked at each other and began to laugh! What in the world were we doing? Where were we going? We didn’t know and didn’t care. Before we could make it to the first stop sign we realized we were missing something on our little golf cart, MUSIC! We started to brainstorm on how to do this and headed to a gas station to find a speaker. Low and behold as we were about to leave, disappointed that we couldn’t find one, there sat a tiny speaker Bomb keychain, the very last one! As we laughed again and gave each other a high five, we grabbed the Bomb and placed it on the counter for purchase. Two people in line behind us, along with the cashier, explained to us that it wasn’t worth buying because of the sound quality, but all we needed was an hour of it’s time and $5.99 was well worth it to us.
After loading back onto our golf cart, we unpacked our Bomb,plugged it into my phone and music blared from the tiny speaker! We busted out laughing! We were in business! We pulled out of the gas station and headed down the beach, blaring our old 90’s tunes and singing all the way! We picked up some beach goers and took them to their car, drove by the beach house where we spent my 40th birthday (almost shed tears) and spent the remainder of the time driving around talking to random people that we bumped into along our way. Near the end of our afternoon, we dropped by Jack of Cups to visit with one of Faith’s friends and I remembered that Kentucky was playing in the Final Four (I’m a huge fan) in a few hours and I didn’t have any of my UK gear with me. I ran to a nearby beach shop and purchased a blue bandana and giant blue and white earrings and posed for a ridiculous picture (next to a blue and white umbrella) that perfectly depicts how I felt about this day. Carefree!!
When leaving to return our golf cart for the afternoon, the song, “Today Was a Good Day”, by Ice Cube, came blaring through our tiny speaker, and Faith and I knew right then that would be our motto and theme song for the day! Sometimes you just need a day like this to reenergize and regain your youth! Now…. back to life, back to reality! (Soul II Soul)
One of the easiest ways to decorate for parties is with balloons! They’re simple, cost effective, and can easily decorate a room in no time. We have picked out some of our favorite Pinterest Pins to showcase just what a little helium and latex can really do!
Confetti Balloons: We LOVE this idea! Fill balloons with confetti or glitter to give it that extra exciting flare. If you’re outside, it might be fun to pop for a certain announcement or special arrival/departure.
Classic Balloons: By adding colorful balloons that match the theme of the party, you can really add a blast of color in a bland room. You can attach the balloons to certain table decor or back of the chair. Make the birthday child feel extra special by adding several to his/her chair.
Balloons On a Stick: Such a beautiful and unique way to use balloons. These balloons really have a modern look with added neutral palette garland.
Balloons On a Cake: A simple white cake looks incredibly modern with an easy, budget friendly solution. You can make your own balloon cake toppers or visit your local party store.
Balloons Wrapped: Visit your local craft store for wrapping inspiration. Tulle is a fun and easy way to really spruce up a simple balloon. Bunch at the bottom and add extra embellishment to match the theme and colors of your party.
Picture Balloons: This idea is perfect for adding that extra personalization. Everyone loves a memorable surprise that comes from the heart. So much more fun than a basic picture frame present.
Decor Balloons: Balloons come in all shapes and sizes! Really get your thinking cap on and come up with creative ways to incorporate balloons in your overall theme.
Hanging Balloons: If you don’t have time to make it to the party store for helium balloons, this is a perfect solution for whipping up party decor in no time. This idea really makes the room look magical with very little effort.
Balloon Backdrop: Such a cute spin on a dessert table backdrop. If you don’t have a dessert table at your party, why not use the same idea for decorating the door or window.
Ceiling Balloons: This room is simply enchanting. Take a look around and notice that there is VERY little decoration in this room. The balloons are so simple but dress up this room flawlessly.
You can find all these pictures and more on Pinterest! The key to inspiration.
Do you ever find yourself in a situation where you are all of a sudden in charge of making a dish or baking a dessert to bring to an event or party? Or maybe you are surprised by unannounced in-laws or relatives coming into town. When you first hear the news, your first thought is…Really? How am I going to find the time to look up a recipe, go to the grocery store, buy all kinds of ingredients, AND make it back home in time to actually make/bake this “entertaining” and delicious food that is expected of me.
The answer?…. Peanut Butter Cookies.
Although many women may already know how to whip up a batch of delicious peanut butter cookies, I wonder how many of these women only use THREE ingredients.
Here’s what you’re going to need:
1 Cup of White Sugar
1 Cup of Peanut Butter (smooth or crunchy – you decide!)
Using an electric mixer, beat the ingredients until smooth and combined.
You will end up with a nice, thick cookie dough with a perfect amount of moisture and crumble.
Once you have your dough, roll into little balls.
Simply take a fork and push down in the center of each cookie dough ball. This will create nice texture.
(Not to mention, it adds a “fancy” factor)
This batch will make about 20-25 cookies. Heat your oven to 375° F for about 10 minutes or until the cookies are nice and golden.
And….You are done! How easy is that?! All you need are three simple pantry ingredients and 10 minutes.
I’m sure it has happened to all of us, either as a guest or as a host of a party. That awkward silence when you’re not sure what to talk about or how to “break the ice”. It’s the MOST uncomfortable feeling when entertaining! Here are some helpful hints to decrease the awkwardness for your guests and be the perfect host.
MUSIC- Music is ALWAYS played at events that I host. It creates a festive and lively atmosphere for guests and if there is a theme, it can help set the mood! Make sure that music is appropriate if young children are present and that the volume is not too high that guests can’t have casual conversations.
ACTIVITIES- This is especially important when entertaining young children. Have something set out for them to start working on: coloring, activity sheets, crafts, bubbles, play-doh. If children can stay occupied while waiting for other guests to arrive, the less you have to worry about them tearing up your home or each other.
FOOD AND DRINKS- Having light snacks available as guests arrive, you create a sense of “welcome”. Asking guests to help themselves to snacks and drinks will give them something “to do” while they wait and more than likely lead to conversations about food, recipes and good times!
LIGHTING- When entertaining in the evening, make sure the lights are dim and create an ambiance for your occasion. During the day, try to have as much natural light as possible! It sets a nice comfortable mood and also looks great in pictures!
ATTITUDE- Nothing screams “AWKWARD” more than a host who is ranting and raving as guests arrive. Try to be prepared and allow yourself time to “calm down” before your event starts. Greet your guests warmly and with a smile. This initial encounter will set the tone for the rest of your party!
I hope that these tips were helpful to you. We would love to hear some of your ideas! Leave a comment below and share some helpful advice!
Living at the beach and having a job as an event planner, I get quite a bit of requests for beach themed parties. Luau, nautical, under the sea, mermaid are just to name a few. When I was asked to help design a 40th birthday with a Lilly Pulitizer theme, I was relieved, to say the least! What a fun twist on a summer theme party idea. All of the colors are so bright and fun and perfect for adults!
- The hostess had a beautiful covered patio that we converted into a sea of pink and green. Paper parasols and tissue poms were hung above cocktail tables with mason jars filled with fresh flowers for centerpieces.
- Lilly’s signature look is monogram, so custom labels were made for the mason jars to fit the theme. Fabric, also inspired by Lilly Pulitzer, was cut and attached to wooden dowels and placed in the jars for added flair.
- The dessert table was created using Lilly Pulitzer wrapping paper on the backdrop as inspiration and tissue paper fans and paper parasols. The vintage bird cage added a nice touch.
- The incredible cake was designed using pink crabs, palmetto trees and a giant monogram on top. It is so elegant and perfect for the theme!
- Guests were seated at a long table in the lawn with a large vase with tree branches adorned with paper lanterns in the center. Paper lanterns were also stacked one on top of another, on a piece of PVC pipe wrapped with battery operated Christmas lights, to create lighting in other seated areas in the lawn.
I’ll admit it. I’m a social media junkie. I have no idea what I’m doing, but I’m hooked and I love it. Why do I love it though? Is it because I can scroll through and see what everyone else is doing, saying, buying, wearing, and just about anything else I want to know or because it helps me with my business advertising? I would like to say the latter of the two, but it’s just not the case. Every morning when I wake up, I log onto my computer to check my emails. Soon after checking emails I am on Facebook posting for my business. Why can’t I post and log off? I mean, what is it? It’s like I am hijacked by Facebook for at least another hour! I see one interesting post that leads to an article that leads me to Pinterest that leads me to….. 4 hours later! Don’t get me wrong, social media has been great for my business and I couldn’t imagine where I would be without it, but I wish it could be JUST for business. Last year I decided to close my personal Facebook page due to personal matters that I was dealing with that I didn’t want to air on social media. After going for almost 9 months without a page, it was liberating! I had no idea what people were doing or saying or not saying and for the first time in years, I could just think about ME! Unfortunately, because of the way Facebook is set up, it was extremely difficult to post on my business page without having a personal page (go figure) and I had to rejoin the Facebook world. Not only did I join Facebook, but also Twitter, Instagram and Pinterest. Yep, all at the same time! Since doing so, I am feeling the old “hijacked” feeling all over again. This is why social media sometimes sucks:
- “Friending” out of guilt- I hate when I get friend requests from people that I do not know, but obviously(due to the mutual friends comment) we somehow know each other or they know me. I don’t want to seem mean or cold and not accept their request, so I do it anyway with the hopes that they are not some creepo that’s going to post a bunch of garbage or try to harass me with crazy requests. But, it always seems to be the case and then we have a whole other problem on our hands. See #2
- “Unfriending”- This can not be more awkward as an “unfriender” because you don’t want to be the one who is going through and deleting friends and being the prude of Facebook. But, I refuse to have half of my news feed filled with half naked girls by a guy that I “friended” that I barely know!
- Comment Phobia- I can’t tell you how many times I have read posts that absolutely BURN me up! Meaning, I could literally slap them for posting it! I have commented on so many posts only to find myself deleting my rants due to fear of the back lash of other commenters. The last thing I need is a commenting brawl on my hands due to something I don’t agree with. Better to just let it go. But, you waste so much energy thinking about the post and how moronic it is and find yourself all worked up over something that means NOTHING to you!
- Braggers- Oh man! I could go on about this one for days! It’s one thing to post about your business and to drive sales, but to constantly brag about yourself and your life, please!! Who cares if you drive a BMW, get to work poolside on your laptop or call yourself a supermom! How about talk about someone else or motivate or inspire? It’s hard to not get caught up in what others are “doing” on social media. You find yourself comparing, judging, wishing for a life like you “see” others having. The truth is, it’s just words and anyone can type anything to appear anyway. Don’t get caught up in the hype!
- “Likes” Obsession- I am guilty of this one and it drives me nuts! I constantly consume myself with how many “likes” my posts or pictures are receiving. Why am I not getting “likes”? Why did they “like” that post? Why didn’t they “like” that post as much as the other one? How can I post about things people will “like” more? Did I “like” her post? I should “like” her post because she “liked” mine. CRAZY!!! Now Facebook has a new thing “Boost” your post so that more people will see it. What?? I can’t even believe our world has come to this. Lol!
- Tweets- What? I don’t understand ONE SINGLE THING about Twitter. I tweet and I don’t even know why. Next.
- Instagram- Truth be told, I really only like it because it has all of those cool color options that make all of my pictures that much more glamorous!
- Pinning- Why in the world are we creating and following Pinterest boards about things we want to buy, acquire, make, build?? For me, it’s kind of depressing. I see all of these awesome “pins” that I would love to have but will probably NEVER have the time or money to EVER have in my lifetime. I guess a girl can dream, huh? Maybe I’ll create a board for that.
- Overload!!!- There are so many different ways to communicate through social media that you have to be a genius just to keep up with all of it. I have watched countless videos, read hundreds of books and every time I think I’ve got it, another site pops up on the scene! I mean Facebook, Pinterest, Tumblr, Instagram, Twitter, Slideshare, LinkedIn and the list goes on and on. I find myself taking pictures and writing content and then losing myself in where to post it! Is it trending? Did I hashtag? Did I pin? By the end of posting, I am left irritated and defeated.
All of these reasons prompted me to do something I should have done a long time ago. Hire a social media and marketing assistant! Thank you Kayla Ashbrook for alleviating most of my stress when it comes to all of this. You are amazing!
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The other night while doing some work on my computer, my son walked in and said, “Mom, are you working on something important?” I said, “Yes, buddy, why?” “Because I really want you to come lay with me on the couch. Just for a few minutes, I promise!”
In that instant, I was immediately brought back to reality! I completely dropped everything I was doing and hugged my son and said, “I would LOVE to come and lay with you on the couch!” His eyes lit up and he was so excited to spend just a few minutes with his mommy.
While lying on the couch snuggling with my son, I realized just how much time I have been devoting to work and not to my job as a mother. I have DREAMED of being a mom and about all of the great things that come along with it! Why, then, was I neglecting my duties and the one thing in life that means more to me than anything? It’s very simple, no work, life, balance! This short, but very complex and hard to achieve phrase is tricky when you are a business owner, single mom and the closest family members you have are 3 states away! I always get caught up in the mentality of “it’s all on me” or “we need the money” or better yet, “I don’t have the luxury to slow down”. Well, you know what? My 6 year old son in one small request made me put everything in perspective. Life is about relationships, about growth about fulfillment. It’s about reflection, learning, loving and devotion! God put me on this earth to make a difference, not to work myself into the ground! My job is to not only be a good provider, but to also be a good friend, sister, daughter, entrepreneur, Christian and MOTHER! I’m pretty sure my son could care less what I leave to him of material value, but he will ALWAYS remember the TIME that I spend with him and the memories that we make together. He will not be my little boy for too much longer. Soon he will be off in the world making his own life and navigating the waters just like his mommy is doing now. It’s a struggle, Life, but if you can stop to enjoy the things in life that matter the MOST, it will all be that much easier! I, for one, will take snuggling on the couch over all the money in the world!!!